Wednesday, December 5, 2012

Rest Peacefully

In nearly four years of blogging and approximately two years of social networking, I've virtually met a number of wonderful, creative and intelligent people. Those with whom I feel deeply connected, however, have been few and far between. Perhaps that is just a manifestation of who I am and how I go about the process of making friends.  Regardless of the reasons, I feel fortunate for both the purely friendly connections as well as the fewer, deeper friendships that I've developed through my internet experiences. 

Usually, those true friendships take a while to cement. Instinct almost always tells me that taking my time in any new relationship is a good idea. To be able to count on consistency in character and values in a friend is a sort of marker of that friend's authenticity, both online and in the real world. Georgia O'Keeffe once said: "Nobody sees a flower really; it is so small. We haven't time, and to see takes time - like to have a friend takes time." 

In my life, I've found O'Keeffe's words to be largely true. One exception to "it takes time" happened when I made a new friend, Marc Panomoroff,  on the social network G+, perhaps a a year ago or so. A few months in getting to know Marc, he told me he was dying. Only a few hours ago today, December 5, I received an email from his daughter that he had passed away.

I don't recall how I stumbled upon his posts but almost immediately, I was struck by the sense of familiarity and ease with which we communicated. I pondered this spontaneous and rather quick new friendship and instead of my usual skepticism about fast friendships, I felt comfortable with it. It took me several months to understand the most important component of my trust in our friendship:  Marc was a gifted communicator. Not just a talented writer but truly gifted. And I  have his gift to thank for allowing me the privilege of getting to know him. Perhaps because he knew he was going to die, there was more of an urgency to get to know those he encountered along the way. What I concluded today is likely what others in Marc's life feel also. Whether they feel it in a way they can place into words or not doesn't matter. Marc was a person who reached those who attempted to reached back. That's what it's all about, isn't it? 

Of the things Marc and I had in common - literature, poetry, daughters, music was what we bonded around the most. We didn't have identical musical taste but we overlapped quite a bit. Among our mutual favorites were The Smiths and Talking Heads, among others. 

Marc - here is a song for you. I will miss you every bit as much as I would, had I been lucky enough to hug you tightly. Rest peacefully, dear friend. 









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  1. Condolences!


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  2. You're right that good friends are hard to come by - even more so as we age. I'm very sorry to hear that Marc has died. I hope his family (and you) will find peace.

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  3. Sad news, Gina. People can touch us in so many ways, even for a brief time and it all means so much.

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  4. I' sorry to hear this news Gina.My deepest condolences

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  5. I ought to express condolences but my honest feeling when I finished reading your post was relief. I thought from your first paragraphs you were going to say you were ending your blog. I was already thinking how to express my shock and condolences about that: something like "Gina, this is the worst news I've had today . . ."

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  6. I had the same thoughts as Vincent - I thought the post began as a sort of farewell to your blogging friends. Blogging brings people together who most probably would not otherwise meet, and it is a mystery why some of those connections run deeply without the face to face contact of most friendships. I'm sorry for your loss of a wonderful friend. sending hugs your way Gina, and wishing you a wonderful holiday season and a healthful new year. take care now.

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  7. Very beautifully put, on your part. I'm sending warm thoughts and comfort to you and everyone else touched by Marc, but in particular his family and daughter. He sounds like such a valuable individual to have crossed paths with and gotten to know. We really are each put here for a reason; evidently he lived his, by connecting with other souls. Those connections will live on forever.

    I'm hugging you tightly. As we all know, virtual hugs can hold a lot of weight.

    -Uschi

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  8. Reaching out one never knows if someone's hand is there. Conasider yourself fortunate to have had time with this person.

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