Thursday, December 31, 2009

Father Commerce and Other Post-Holiday Ruminations

Did you cherish your holidays and your family this season? Me, I tried really hard and fell short of my expectations that I would be the perfect person for each and every individual in my life.  Any smart person would have given up trying by now to be perfect but I, alas, mistakenly harbor hope that one day I will not piss off a single person for even one moment.  Ha!

 Have no fear of perfection - you'll never reach it.
~Salvador Dali

There was lots of champagne and good food and beautiful daughters and a loving Old World mother. I decidedly did not receive an iphone from Father Commerce. I find those little gizmos highly distracting. People use their cell phones and other small electronic gadgets while they operate  motor vehicles. If I did that routinely, starting today, I would be dead in three days. Or less. Oh, but I did get a new Canon with a big zoom lens on it. It will be great to be able to photograph birds and the other wildlife around the river and lake. I'm excited.

I think I have a rare form of attention deficit disorder. This is admittedly a self-diagnosis and it may be wacky but I helps me keep my unruly brain in check. Unlike ADHD people, I am often distracted by too much thought - which is really the result of a very long attention span. I don't want to pay attention to too many things at once. I find it overwhelming.  Particularly when it involves driving or operating heavy machinery. For me, a blender constitutes such. I really have to be careful. I also don't understand why so many people don't get that real thinking takes a long time! I'm having this problem with my current instructor. He's way too zippy for me.

I am in a mood. It's not a bad mood, exactly. I just want to tell everyone I love that they should go away from me, please and let me blog. But then, a wonderful thing happens. My daughter SG2, recently turned 21, accepts my invitation to spend the day together yesterday and we click. I took a chance, not altogether sure we would. And we had a wonderful day.. We had a late lunch and then we got our eyebrows waxed. 
I have decided:  one can only eat sushi satisfactorily with another sushi lover.
I promise not to divulge all the eyebrow waxing details. Suffice it to say that I'm very aware of my eyebrows these days. I have been worried that I may frighten people with my shock of white Andy Warhol hair and my jet-black eyebrows. Don't worry. both the eyebrows and the hair remain, and in their respective natural colors. I have merely cleaned up my eyebrows a bit. My daughter approves.  My eyebrows are now more stylish than Warhol's and I hope I'm a tad bit cuter than Andy.

Oh, I got my mother this Christmas and the salt cod!  :-)  And The Runt got some, too!

Pagan Sphinx Warholized

Happy 2010
Be brave and be happy in the new year!


  1. I do relate to this, I am always watchful for the conflict but for once there was none.
    I tried to get excited over son and DIL's new DROID phones but all I want a phone for is to communicate with other humans.
    I was ready to head for home after five days of family togetherness. I love them all, they are wonderful people, but...
    I'm glad that you were able to spend the holiday with your mother, does she still make her home in Portugal?
    May we all have a stress free New Year.

  2. Hi, Martha!

    After living in the U.S. for twenty years, my mother returned to live in Portugal. That was in 1987 and she's never really looked back, except to be with us whenever she could. And we with her.

    You can see a photo of Maria enjoying the contemporary art at MoCA, in the post below!

    Martha, we are totally on the same page with the holiday thing I think. Hugs to you and enjoy your space on New Year's! WP and I are enjoying ours!

  3. Happy New Year to you too!
    Wishing you the BEST!

  4. Aloha, Friend!
    Hauoli Makahiki Hou (Happy New Year)

    Comfort Spiral

  5. I love the Father Commerce riff.

    I love my smart phone, but I commute to and from work by bus. It's a way for me to get extra time every day.

  6. I can also relate to this. I dearly love my family and friends, but am so glad when they say good-bye for a while. My youngest used to say to me, "Mom, you have no life at all". I would tell her that I live a very active fantasy life. But of course it goes much deeper than that.
    But, for Pete's sake (whoever he may be) stop trying to be perfect! Dali was so right.

  7. Bobbie: for me to truly have fun, I have to have that "inner fantasy life" you speak of. I think that's why I like blogging.

    It's so nice to follow Isaac a bit through pictures as he's growing up. I love it that you share that on your blog. That boy is always learning! I love it.

    Libhom: your phone is smart, so it shouldn't land in a heap of trouble, we hope! ;-) You are in NYC and you don't drive - the phone is a smart way to use your time! I would if I were an urbanite. I live in the sticks where there still isn't full cellular coverage! Happy New Year, my good man! :-)

    Cloudia: Hauoli Makahiki Hou to you too!

    Flor Larios: ano novo feliz!

  8. Happy New Year, Gurrrl, and the next time you talk to Maria, please let her know that the cod went into one of the best fish chowders Ursi and I ever ate!

    It was great to see her again, and you as well. :)

  9. oh sweetie- perfection is in the eyes of the beholder :) i am 100% perfect in my eyes ;) ;) ;) i choose to ignore my flaws and if others don't- well, i don't have the 'i don't want to piss anyone off' button anymore ;) i am very glad that you had nice holidays and you keep thinking your thoughts- long and deep. there are not nearly enough folks around who do- and i don't do 'zippy' either :) hugs to you and yours and i look forward to your blog posts in 2010- whenever they happen :) you are in the google reader and i do read once in awhile ;)


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